Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Hot Topic .. Abuse In The Church ... Book Review (2007)
Book Review . Ministers Wives . Private Lives . Public Lives . Author . Parent . Pastor .Unfaithful . Survivor . Divorced . Abuse . Married . Happy Marriage . You Can Have a Dream Marriage
Joel (Husband, Parent, Pastor) and Kathy Davisson sent me their books for review in 2007. Their marriage was restored and I'll share more at a later date.
On May 14, 2013 Kathy emailed me and shared this with me after I contacted her and told her that I was going to share some reviews from her book again: See us in "Unfaithful" on the OWN (Oprah Winfrey) network. Look for "Unfaithful" and "Kathy and Joel" as one of the two couples! (Season 2, 2012. Re-broadcasted often.)
I shared a couple of reviews from this book "Real Life 101 Issues."
Tips from a Book I Reviewed
Joel(Husband, Parent, Pastor) which is one of the authors shares "longsuffering ministers' wives know their husbands are not living the life in private that they are attempting to display in public.
He understands the manipulation and control to which these wives have been subjected behind closed doors. He knows what it means to step out of ministry to go through the painful growth needed to become the man that God has called him to be by becoming the husband that his wife needs him to be.
The point is not that a pastor's wife left him. The point is that his wife's departure was a cumulative response to years of manipulation, abuse and control. This was not a sudden decision.
If someone could have looked at the authors of this book lives they would have seen the truth that his wife and him were fighting a lot.
Joel has openly shared how he mistreated his wife - Kathy in many ways.
Joel and Kathy had to successfully live what they wrote for a long time before they could share it in writing.
Dr. Sandra Hamilton, Miami, Florida shares in the book - she received information on this book at the Global Pastors Network and Women in Ministry Conference.
She recently completed two Doctoral degrees, one of which is in Education with Specialization in Conflict Resolution and the other in Religious Education (seminary). She thoroughly researched domestic violence in the church. She stated it is a silence issue. Her dissertation will be looking at the African American communities...where the epidemic seems to be devasting.
She is a survior. She is divorced.
Rosanna Logan shares in the book - she was married for 25 years to a Bible College director and associate pastor of a big church in Fort Worth. She and her husband got a divorce because he had several affairs with students. Rosanna was a Bible College instructor and Christian journalist (editor of 500,000 circulation Christian newspaper in Dallas).
She wanted her marriage restored but she wanted her husband to come clean on his own and tell the senior pastor.
The senior pastor was not interested in the truth.
Abuse is a cycle that must be broken in families. She recommends "Young people need this book before they get married."
She shares her husband was too arrogant to believe that he needed help.
Rosanna has ministered in 24 countries, built and international Christian newspaper and taught all over the world for 18 years.
She is now married again. She is now on the ground floor of starting new Christian publications, writing books, and Christian college curriculum and she is about to start three new Bible Schools. She says "the devil can knock you down, but he can't knock you out!"
The authors of the book is Joel & Kathy Davisson (Husband, Wife, Parents, Pastors) of "The Man of Her Dreams The Woman of His! Preface by Paul Hegstrom Ph. D., Endorsed by Pastor Billy Joe Daugherty.