Raising Teens To Succeed In The Real World.
The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility & the wings of independence. Denis Waitley
It's not easy raising teenagers, especially in our cultural climate that sends so many mixed messages (many destructive), offers innumerable distractions, & poses any number of potential perils for young people.
Are you ready, to release an eagle to soar?
Keep Your Eyes On The Goal: If you don't know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else. Lawrence J. Peter
Our "destination," in this case, is the millstone launch into adulthood & the knowledge our children will require to do it successfully. This involves:
1. covering the bases with the wisdom our children need for "real world" independent (i.e., what do they need to know?)
2. instilling the principles & values for honorable living (i.e., how they should live?)
3. helping our children discover their unique assets they bring to the world (i.e., "who am I, what do I have to offer, & what are my opportunities?")
Try This: A Parenting Mission Statement
To inspire, equip, & empower our future adults who are admired for their character, respected for their gifts & talents, & remembered for the love & service they gave to others.
We will raise future leaders of excellence who will purposefully & honorably, who will understand & passionately offer their unique assets, who leave a legacy of significance & joyful service, who will value relationships & faith, who will exude gratitude & courage, & who will live with the confidence of knowing they are loved unconditionally & believed-in emphatically.
During this time, it pays to get to know the other voices in your teens life, both the good & potentially not-so-good. Some "voices" you want to be paying attention to are:
Their inner voice (conscience)
Other Adults: have been especially valuable during the teen years, when our children didn't want to hear so much from Mom & Dad. These voices have included:
their grandparents & extended family members,
long-time family friends,
friends from our faith community; youth group leaders/mentors,
teachers & coaches who took a special interest in our kids & invested in them, &
parents of some of their friends.
1. Consider having a "No Screen/No Tech Day" in your household once in a while. (This can be as difficult for parents as it is for teens!) Make an effort to lesson the influence of the technology & entertainment on all of you.
2. Make a list of the five most influential people in your teen's life.
3. Do they align with your family values?
Moving From Driver To Passenger:
The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them. Frank A. Clark
What They Need From Us
In order to accomplish a successful launch, we need to provide them with:
our unconditional love & understanding
our belief & encouragement,
preparation & practical wisdom,
our perspective of their uniqueness & value,
full acknowledgement that it's their live & their dreams, not ours
a healthy & enduring relationship based on trust,
an open door 24-7, &
The authors are Dennis Trittin & Arlyn Lawrence. Authors/Publishers/Writers. Dennis penned "What I Wish I Knew at 18: Life Lessons for the Road Ahead.