Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Book Review . Family-friendly . Dating . eHarmony . business coach host . writer . editor . Failing in Love For all the Right Reasons . Soul Mate . biz development . business development . Christian Worldview . faith based . ethnic backgrounds . religions . races
Sharing some tips from a book that I reviewed in 2005.
I did not want to focus on the dating from the book, so I focused from the business development from the book.
I received a review copy of eHarmony while being the business coach host, writer, editor for a site.
Development of eHarmony.com has more than 500 questions based on 29 dimensions that their scientific research has shown are crucial to long-term success in relationships.
In 1995 Dr. Neil Clark Warren, moved his counseling practice to a new office in Pasadena. Much of his time was consumed with creating materials to teach people how they could have a better marriage. One day while talking with his son-in-law Greg Forgatch, he told him about a study he had done in which he asked 100 married couples to tell him what makes a great marriage.
His son-in-law asked him had he ever thought of creating a service for singles based on that kind of information?
They began to dream of an educational service based on such empirical data.
This data is share in the book "Failing in Love For all the Right Reasons - How to find your Soul Mate" written by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, founder of eHarmony.com with Ken Abraham.
In 1977 Greg and Dr. Warren traveled to Santa Monica, California, where they met Pete Hurt, the former CEO of MasterCard and the current CEO of Advanta ( a financial services company for small businesses).
Pete became convinced that the only way a matchmaking company could succeed was to expand the pool of available partners. And the most helpful way of doing that seemed to be by means of the Internet.
Pete encouraged Greg and Dr. Warren to develop a program and put it on the Internet. Pete told Dr. Warren that he would be his advisor, only if he would use the Internet.
They took another year and a half to gather and analyze their empirical data.
To collect accurate reliable information, they decided to devise a questionaire for married couples to complete. They developed a team of researchers comprised of PdD's and research assistants, many of whom had worked alongside him when he taught graduate -level psychology classes. Dr. Galen Buck Walter, a brillant former student of his, was one of the first to come on board after Greg Forgatch and their friend Greig Steiner.
Galen introduced them to his friend Steve Carter, who was taking a break from his doctoral program for a while. Steve joined them in their quest. Soon Steve brought in antoher friend, Grant Langston, and they started meeting every day, working on questions they wanted to ask married couples.
A friend of Greg's, Kevin Burke, also assisted them greatly in the process. Kevin is the director of Lucid Marketing, a company with great expertise in public relations. It was Kevin who first almost whimsically tagged the fledgling company and future Internet site with the name "eHarmony.com."
Greg informed Lorrie that we were not going to match individuals on external appearances or bank accounts, but on values, character, and other inner qualities, she caught the vision for what we could do.
As they began developing their eHarmony team, they didn't go to other Internet companies in an attempt to hire away their best people. That would have produced an environment of MBA's, marketing people, and Internet techies who would say, "Well, the last five times we created one of these Internet companies, we did it this way."
Although Dr. Warren and Greg approached the problem from a faith-based, Christian Worldview, they have people of various ethnic backgrounds, races and religious faiths harmoniously working together at eHarmony.
Dr. Warren's wife, Marilyn has a background in fundraising. Marilyn raised more than $150 million during her tenure as a library. From the beginning of eHarmony, Marilyn had been their best public relations person.
They had secured a few financial grants to help get them started and had lined up investors to help them afford the initial launch costs. The equipment and technology wweb site cost more than $3.1 million. They had no clients when they first opened for business in August 2000, it cost more than $300,000 per month in overhead merely to keep the company going.
Not only did they pick up new members to eHarmony following his interview on the nationally broadcasted radio show, they multiplied from barely 4,000 people on their site at the time to more than 350,000 singles on eHarmony within twenty-four months.
In 2002 he was invited to return to the nationally syndicated radio show to represent an update. By then they were adding nearly one thousand new users every day and more than two hundred couples had married after being matched on eHarmony.
The corporate culture at eHarmony is rather laid-back, but it is definitely not sloppy.
Sunday School Lesson . Christian Courtship . Love . Christian Dating . The Wedding . Christian Marriage . Wedding . The Marriage . Genesis/Bereshith 1 . Genesis/Bereshith 2 . Jeremiah 3 . Hosea 2 . I John 4 . I Corinthians 13 . Song of Solomon 4 . Movie Night . Tyler Perry Movie: Why Did I Get Married? or Why Did I Get Married Too?
My Sunday School Lesson for the week October 23, 2011 was coming from the Books of Genesis/Bereshith, Jeremiah, Hosea, I John, I Corinthians, & Song of Solomon.
Our lesson in the Teacher's Guide stated to plan a movie night with a few of our friends from work and or our community to watch the movies by Tyler Perry: Why Did I Get Married? or Why Did I Get Married Too? After the presentation of the movie(s) a discussion should be held.
Monday - October 17,2011 - God Blessed Them - Genesis /Bereshith 1:26-31
Creation from God's Standpoint (Genesis/Bereshith 1:1-2:3)
Tuesday - October 18, 2011 - One Flesh - Genesis/Bereshith 2:18-24
Creation from man's standpoint (Genesis/Bereshith 2:4-25)
Wednesday - October 19,2011 - The Consequences of Unfaithfulness - Jeremiah 3:1-5
Prophecies Concerning God's Action At Home & Abroad (Jeremiah 1:1-45:5)
First Message a Warning of judgment (Jeremiah 2:1-3:5)
Thursday - October 20,2011 - A Covenant of Love - Hosea 2:16-23
The great restoration (Hosea 2:14-23)
Hosea's Broken Marriage (Hosea 1:1-3:5)
Friday - October 21,2011 - The Source of Love - I John 4:7-12
God Is Love (I John 4:7-5:5)
Saturday - October 22,2011 - The Expectations of Love - I Corinthians 13
The supremacy of love (I Corinthians 13:1-13)
Spiritual Gifts (I Corinthians 12:1-14:40)
Sunday - October 23,2011 - How Sweet Is Love! - Song of Solomon 4:8-5:1a
How beautiful you are my darling': groom praises bride (Song of Solomon 4:1-15)
Drink your fill, O lovers! (Song of Solomon 4:16-5:1)
The Day of Hearts' Rejoicing (Song of Solomon 3:1-5:1)
Scripture reference used/taken from: The International Teacher's Bible Encyclopedia/Concordance KJV Precious Promise Bible & Zondervan Commentary
Devotion . Devotional . Building Character . Integrity . Truth . Honesty . Deuteronomy 10 . Deuteronomy 16
April/May/June 2013 Devotional & Educational Emphasis is on "Building Character .. Truth, Honesty, & Integrity.
Devotion Scripture ... Deuteronomy 10:17
Topic Scripture ... Deuteronomy 16:19-20
Key Verse ... Thou .. shalt not wrest judgment; .. thou .. shalt not respect persons, .. neither .. take a gift: for a gift doth blind the eyes of the wise; & pervert the .. words .. of the righteous (Deuteronomy 16:19).
Thou ... Exodus 23:2,6
thou ... Deuteronomy 1:17
neither ... Exodus 23:8
words ... matter, status, pillar
Deuteronomy 16:19,20 ... Civil & Social Life; Administration of Law, Imperial Justice Demanded
Call to Worship: Deuteronomy 10:16,17
Verse 16 ... Sacred Rites & Forms; Sacraments, Worship, & Church-Fellowship; The Significance of the Rite, It Implied a Moral Change
Verse 17 ... God; Attributes Of God As Person; Impartiality
Devotional Message Scripture ... Deuteronomy 10:17
Topic Discussion Scriptures ... Deuteronomy 10; 16:19-20
Deuteronomy 9:6-10:11 ... Reminders of past failures
Deuteronomy 10:12-11:32 ... A Call to Commitment
Deuteronomy 16-17 ... Annual Pilgrimages
Deuteronomy 16:18-18:22 ... The Duties of Officials
Integrity ... moral, uprightness, honesty, decency, goodness, virtue, trustworthiness, soundness, incorruptibility
Scripture reference used/taken from: KJV Topical Reference Bible, The International Teacher's Handy Bible Encyclopedia/Concordance KJV Precious Promise Bible, Zondervan Commentary, & Reader's Digest Oxford Complete WordFinder
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Book Review . Metaphors . Words . Sales Pitches .Information . Communication . Presentations . Speeches . Business Coach Host . Editor . Host. Writer . Speaker . Executive Coach . Seminar Leader . Consultant . Author . Media . Financial Services . Business Sectors . Yahoo . Millions of Dollars
I am most thankful that Ms. Anne Miller sent me her book "Metaphorically Selling" in 2005 when I was the Business Coach Host - Editor - Writer.
Anne is the founder of Chiron Associates Inc., a widely respected sales and presentation speaker, executive coach, seminar leader, consultant and author. She assists high profile Fortune 1000 companies in media, financial services and business sectors, including Yahoo! and over 100 consumer magazines. She sells products and services worth millions of dollars. She has appeared on CNNfn and Bloomberg News Radio.
Billions of dollars are left on the table and hundreds of ideas fail to get off the ground every day because of the over-communicated society in which we live.
This book will guide the reader step-by-step through the process of incorporating metaphors into sales pitches, presentations and speeches, including exercises and tips to cultivate and sustain a competitive edge using metaphors.
Packed with more than 250 examples from business, media, and even the deserts of Morocco, the small business owner to the corporate executive - to lead their listeners to "yes" by becoming a "Metaphorian" -- a master of metaphor.
In 1980, Lee Iacocca went to Congress to get $1.2 billion in loan guarantees for the then failing Chrysler Corporation. HE argued, quite successfully. Chrysler's problems were America's problems; Chrysler's bankruptcy would be America's loss.
Iacocca got his money.
Iacocca's one small phrase won him $1.2 billion dollars.
Lee Iacocca understood the power of metaphors, visual words that conjure an image in the listener's mind and unleash a torrent of associations.
That is the power of speaking metaphorically. You can change minds.
In Anne's 20 years of teaching sales and presentation seminars, one key factor that she see repeatedly sets sellers apart from their competition is their choice of words. It is not enough to present; you must communicate.
Metaphors help a client see possibilities he didn't see before and they help him make the best decision.
In Section one you'll learn that the brain actually craves the visual and the emotional; that you must appeal to both the left and the right side's of your client's brain to make a sale.
What Do You Sell?
It's not the presenters aren't prepared: they know their material, they've worked up a slick PowerPoint presentation, they've got excellent hand-outs. But their verbal skills and/or approach to communication cost them their audience.
They confuse information with communication.
A Metaphor is simply a way of communication.
Information + Metaphors = "I see what you mean!"
Sometimes a metaphor will fail because it isn't given enough explanation to succeed.
Her goal is to get you to see the possibilities of what you may be missing. You're going to see all the ways a presentation can increase your selling power and bring you more business.
It's like a stained-glass window, you have to step back to get the full effect.
Book Review . Women . Girl Talk. Family-friendly . Christian . Spiritual Medicine to your Soul
This book plainly touches on all healing areas of women lives such as depression, rebelling children, debt, grief and divorce, just to name a few areas.
This is a book review that I reviewed and shared December 2000 at one site.
Girl, have I got good news for you and it is like " Spiritual Medicine to your Soul."
This book was written by Thelma Wells (2000, Thomas Nelson Publishers, 161 pages). I would recommend this book for churches, homes, mission, women, Sunday school departments, counselors, pastors, abuse centers, financial centers, women clinics, funeral parlors and Parenting classes.
This book plainly touches on all healing areas of women lives such as depression, rebelling children, debt, grief and divorce, just to name a few areas.
I would like for you to think on Luke 1:5, 11-17, 36; I Samuel 1:2-7, Psalm 127: 3-5 and Luke 1:60. We are looking at two women sharing their joy and concerns.
Elisabeth was the wife of Zechariah; God had chosen her for a special ministry.
It seems like Elisabeth and Mary had a friendly relationship. When Elisabeth was six months pregnant, Mary visited her.
Mary stayed with Elisabeth for three months, and the two women shared hopes and dreams. Elisabeth was old enough to be Mary's grandmother and she probably shared wisdom and advice with her.
I can see a beautiful picture of the friendship of two women. They probably blessed and encouraged each other.
Elisabeth was a wife, mother, friend and mentor.
When we came into the world we had great assets to weather successfully any storm or difficulty.
My friend, let's take inventory of our assets: Love, courage, faith, prayer and God.
Love opens doors, heals and blesses.
Wisdom lights the path to health, prosperity, and adjustment of difficulties, happiness and peace of mind.
Courage knocks on the door to success.
Faith tells us that no matter what happens God is present in all His power.
Prayer is the key to development of all of our assets.
Our greatest asset is God. We can always count on God. Man will let you down.
Book Review . Ministers Wives . Private Lives . Public Lives . Author . Parent . Pastor .Unfaithful . Survivor . Divorced . Abuse . Married . Happy Marriage . You Can Have a Dream Marriage
Joel (Husband, Parent, Pastor) and Kathy Davisson sent me their books for review in 2007. Their marriage was restored and I'll share more at a later date.
On May 14, 2013 Kathy emailed me and shared this with me after I contacted her and told her that I was going to share some reviews from her book again: See us in "Unfaithful" on the OWN (Oprah Winfrey) network. Look for "Unfaithful" and "Kathy and Joel" as one of the two couples! (Season 2, 2012. Re-broadcasted often.)
I shared a couple of reviews from this book "Real Life 101 Issues."
Tips from a Book I Reviewed
Joel(Husband, Parent, Pastor) which is one of the authors shares "longsuffering ministers' wives know their husbands are not living the life in private that they are attempting to display in public.
He understands the manipulation and control to which these wives have been subjected behind closed doors. He knows what it means to step out of ministry to go through the painful growth needed to become the man that God has called him to be by becoming the husband that his wife needs him to be.
The point is not that a pastor's wife left him. The point is that his wife's departure was a cumulative response to years of manipulation, abuse and control. This was not a sudden decision.
If someone could have looked at the authors of this book lives they would have seen the truth that his wife and him were fighting a lot.
Joel has openly shared how he mistreated his wife - Kathy in many ways.
Joel and Kathy had to successfully live what they wrote for a long time before they could share it in writing.
Dr. Sandra Hamilton, Miami, Florida shares in the book - she received information on this book at the Global Pastors Network and Women in Ministry Conference.
She recently completed two Doctoral degrees, one of which is in Education with Specialization in Conflict Resolution and the other in Religious Education (seminary). She thoroughly researched domestic violence in the church. She stated it is a silence issue. Her dissertation will be looking at the African American communities...where the epidemic seems to be devasting.
She is a survior. She is divorced.
Rosanna Logan shares in the book - she was married for 25 years to a Bible College director and associate pastor of a big church in Fort Worth. She and her husband got a divorce because he had several affairs with students. Rosanna was a Bible College instructor and Christian journalist (editor of 500,000 circulation Christian newspaper in Dallas).
She wanted her marriage restored but she wanted her husband to come clean on his own and tell the senior pastor.
The senior pastor was not interested in the truth.
Abuse is a cycle that must be broken in families. She recommends "Young people need this book before they get married."
She shares her husband was too arrogant to believe that he needed help.
Rosanna has ministered in 24 countries, built and international Christian newspaper and taught all over the world for 18 years.
She is now married again. She is now on the ground floor of starting new Christian publications, writing books, and Christian college curriculum and she is about to start three new Bible Schools. She says "the devil can knock you down, but he can't knock you out!"
The authors of the book is Joel & Kathy Davisson (Husband, Wife, Parents, Pastors) of "The Man of Her Dreams The Woman of His! Preface by Paul Hegstrom Ph. D., Endorsed by Pastor Billy Joe Daugherty.
Monday, May 13, 2013
Spiritual Gifts . 12 Step Programs . God . Jehovah-Jireh . Crisis . Trial . Suffering . Holiness . Christian Service . Love . Hospitality . Faith . Cost of Discipleship . Power of the Good News/Gospel . Sunday School Lesson.
My Sunday School Lesson for the week of May 19,2013 is coming from the Books of Luke, James and I Peter.
Personal assignment: spiritual gits inventory and 12 step program (this thought was in my sunday school book)
I Peter 4:10 .... As ..every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as .. good stewards of .. the manifold grace of God.
Spiritual Gifts Inventory/Quiz: (these links/urls were not in my sunday school book below, consult your Christian leader at your Place of Worship as well)
12 Step Programs: (these links/urls were not in my sunday school book below)
Financial Christian Book Reviews: (2005 & 2012 Reviews)
I Peter 4:10 ....
As .. every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as .. good stewards of .. the manifold grace of God.
Man Redeemed; Duties & Graces Of The New Life; Christian Hospitality, Enjoined
As .. Romans 12:6; I Corinthians 4:7
as .. Matthew 24:45; Matthew 25:14,21; Luke 12:42
the .. I Corinthians 12:4
I Peter 4:10 ....
every .. I Corinthians 4:7
Scripture reference used/taken from: KJV Topical Reference Edition Bible & The International Teacher's Handy Bible Encyclopedia/Concordance KJV Precious Promise Bible